Question:



What's the best way to get my ex girlfriend back ? Some time ago my girlfriend left me. I made some pretty basic mistakes with her after we first ended things and I ended up pushing her away.



I really want her back now but I am not sure what I should do next. Is there still hope for me to win her back even though I've pushed her away?




Answer:



Breakups suck no doubt about it and it's never fun having your heart ripped out of your chest. And let's face it, as guys sometimes we do some pretty dumb things when it comes to women. Maybe some of the things we did were intentional, maybe others weren't. But that still doesn't change the fact that a breakup took place and now you want to get your ex girlfriend back.



Hopefully you won't have to do a total 180 on who you are as a person, but even still there is still some work that needs to be done by you. I've outlined 6 things you can do that will help you get your ex girlfriend back, even if you've pushed her away.



6 Steps To Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back



STEP 1. Change your attitude. How do you see your ex girlfriend right now? Do you see her as something to get back or do you see her as a person who wants to be loved for who she is and what she brings to the relationship? If you see her as only a prize to be won, then you've missed the mark. Your ex girlfriend has feelings and wants to be loved and cherished by you and since you have a history together an know what her likes and dislikes are you automatically have an edge over the competition when it comes to winning her heart back again. Use this knowledge to your advantage.



STEP 2. Change the way you treat women. It's one thing to say you're going to put your woman's needs above your own, but its another thing to do it. If you need to change the way you treat women, try being pleasant and courteous to each and every woman in your life... starting with your mother. The reason that this is so important is that women deserve to be treated with kindness in a relationship and so if your ex sees you treating women in this way your stock goes up in her eyes, despite what may have happened in the past. On the other hand, if she sees you treating other women with disrespect, then your chances of getting her back will be almost zero.



STEP 3. Be modest. Women in general are not attracted to jerks, however they adore a man who's modest and respectful towards them. Now I'm not saying that you need to be a push over and never voice your opinion about what you want, in fact, women love a man who is self confident. However, you still need to be respectful and show self discipline when the time comes.



STEP 4. Admit your mistakes. One of the fastest ways to get your ex girlfriend back after a breakup is to admit your mistakes in the relationship. This is part of being respectful and modest in regards to your ex and it shows her that you're willing to self analyze and try and fix those areas in your life that need to be fixed. This is a great time for you to make a list of those areas in your life that need improvement and those things that contributed to the breakup. This exercise lets you clearly see what things you need to work on so that you're more desirable when you meet up with your ex again. I know that neither of you was perfect in the relationship, but the only person you can change is you. So take this opportunity while you're apart to work on yourself.



STEP 5. Respect her wishes. You've just been through being dumped and emotions and thoughts will be running high so if your ex girlfriend needs time alone give it to her. If you try and coerce the issue it will only damage your chances at reconciliation because you'll push her further away. Respect what she tells you despite what you may currently be feeling. In the end it will work in your favor.



STEP 6. Show her how much you've changed as a man. There will come a time when your ex girlfriend wants to meet up again to see how you're doing. When this happens, be polite and show her just how much you've changed since the breakup. Chances are she's not going to want to talk about the past relationship, so keep things light and caual with her and let her steer the conversation. Listen to what she says during your time together and take your cues from there on what to do next.



You don't need to do all of these 6 things in order but the most important thing your ex girlfriend needs to see is that you've changed as a person and are someone worth being with if you really want to get her back . The more effort you put into each of these 6 things, the less effort you'll need to put in when the time comes to meet up with your ex girlfriend and get her back.